Mary "Tonie" Ivey Smith's Obituary
Mary “Tonie” Ivey Smith, 79, of Oakboro, passed away peacefully on Friday, April 25, 2025, at Atrium Health Stanly. A private Celebration of Life will be held at a later date.
Born on September 14, 1945, in Mecklenburg County, Tonie was the daughter of the late John and Nan Ivey. She was preceded in death by her beloved husband, Richard Cecil Smith, and her sister, Nancy Dellinger.
Tonie is lovingly survived by her devoted longtime companion, Howard Dorton; her daughter, Nancy Haywood (Mack) of Cary; and her son, Lee “Tripp” Douglas (Ellen) of Mt. Airy. She was a proud grandmother to Jimmy Haywood, Charlie Haywood, and Hailey Rhodes, and a delighted great-grandmother to Elliot. She is also remembered with love by her brother-in-law, Terrell Dellinger of Rougemont; her nephew, David Dellinger (Tara) of Durham; and her niece, Kimberly Dellinger Leonard (Parrish) of Wake Forest.
Tonie was a caring mother, a loyal partner, and a friend to many. Known for her kind heart and willingness to help others, she brought warmth and light into every room. She enjoyed reading, relaxing with a good movie, and, in earlier years, found great joy in square dancing. She will be deeply missed by all who knew and loved her.
In lieu of flowers, the family kindly requests that memorial contributions be made to the American Heart Association, in honor of Tonie’s memory.
Stanly Funeral and Cremation Care of Locust is serving the Smith family.
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